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by Aurora
Probably not. Here is why. Should I date an older man?

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A few weeks ago I went on a date with a man, who revealed that his actual age was 52 and not 40 like he said on his dating app profile. I was lost for words. When I asked him why he lied about this age, he said that he prefers dating younger women as he finds them more “attractive” and because he is still hoping to have children. My immediate reaction to the prospect of dating someone 18 (!) years older was disgust. The common narrative is that women want to (or at least don’t mind) dating older (rich) men. Some celebrities like Leonardo DiCaprio even became famous for their eternally young girlfriends. However, in reality, these large age gaps are uncommon. Only about 8% of male-female relationship s in Western countries have a gap of 10 years or more. Marriage data and surveys indicate that women globally prefer men, who are no more than 2-4 years their senior. While some data backs up that men of all ages find women most attractive when they are in their early twenties, the data also shows that women aged 20-22 are mostly interested in men aged 20-25. The stats suggest that couples with smaller age gaps are happier and their relationships last longer. A zero to three-year age gap is best, followed by a four- to six-year gap and it goes downhill from there. Interestingly both men and women were happier if they married someone younger. That men find young(er) women attractive is hardly news. But when data from OkCupid, an online dating site, showed the extent of that preference it still came as a shock. The notorious graphs are a little old now (from 2010) but haven’t lost their depressing allure. See for yourself: Most people explain these preferences with evolutionary biology. Younger women are more fertile so men are more likely to be attracted to them, while women are evolutionary conditioned to look for a partner, who can protect and provide for them and their offspring. There is probably some truth in that but the reality is more complex. Men may find much younger women physically more attractive but they evidently rarely end up in relationships with them. It also appears men at the end of the day are most interested in women, who fall closer within their own age range (or perhaps they are just being more realistic about their chances?). Why do men want to date younger women? But what about the men, who are actively seeking and even deceiving younger women to coax them into relationships with them? I think the real reason why some men are looking to date younger women is because they are easier to impress and manipulate than women their own age. They know that they can get away with things that a more experienced woman would never put up with. They feel superior dating someone with less life experience, who admires them and doesn’t hold them to higher standards. There are exceptions but usually, the power dynamics in relationships between women in their twenties and older men are problematic. We know that our brains are still developing and maturing in our mid to late twenties. We still learn so much about ourselves during that time and perhaps more importantly, we don’t know our full potential yet. When I was in my twenties, I remember being impressed by men in their thirties who took me to fancy restaurants or paid for holidays. But when I entered my thirties, these things appeared in a different light. The same restaurants and hotels were not as extravagant as they had appeared in comparison with my student and early career earnings. I was able to able to eat in nicer restaurants and pay for better vacations with my own money then. In fact, my salary sometimes far exceeded what the men in question were earning at the same age. I don’t say this because I am arrogant or ungrateful. In most cases, these men were just being polite picking up the bill for the economically weaker party in the situation. It’s not just about money either. I am more knowledgeable and accomplished than some of them were at the same age. Looking back the men were not impressive in their own right, it was just the gap in life experience that made them appear so. Me in my early twenties or in prime sugar-baby territory. Young women tend to underestimate themselves and their value. When dating an older man there is a real danger that they will settle for someone way below their level and potentially waste their best years and lose out on finding an equal match.













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